Marriage

During the sermon this morning I was reminded about the scripture that talks about how husbands are to present their wives to the Lord like Christ presents the church to God unblemished, without spot. Boy, I do not envy husbands! That is a pretty tall order. How many wives make this an impossible task by refusing to defer to the husband as the leader in the relationship? It is hard to defer to your husband, especially when he wants you to do something that you really don't want to do. Now I am not talking about anything illegal, just something that pushes you out of your comfort zone. This is something that the Lord has been laying on my heart a lot lately. I am being challenged to accept my Dh as my leader and to follow him and trust him in everything. I am not putting aside my own intelligence or being a door mat. I am placing myself in the assistant position, which is where I believe that God intended for me to be.  Dh values my input and listens to what I have to say, however, we have agreed that the final decision is his. What if he decides to go a direction that I don't want to go? I go anyway, trusting that God is leading Dh and that Dh is following God. If Dh ends up taking the wrong road, that is on his shoulders, not mine. God has told me to submit to my husband in everything, not just when I know he is making the right decision. Is it easy? NO! Is there more peace in our home? YES!!! As long as I keep my hands off the reigns. Does Dh make mistakes? yes. Does he admit to mistakes? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Does it matter? Not really. We are on a journey together. We are both human and we both make mistakes, hopefully learn from them, and then continue on. I feel that our modern world has handed women a big bag of lies when it comes to a woman's place in the world. We are told that being a wife and mother is not enough. We need to go bring home the bacon and then fry it up. We are expected to have a career, be a loving wife, nurturing mother, perfect housekeeper, and excel in all that we put our hands to. That is an awful lot of burden to place on a woman's shoulders! That is more burden that the Lord ever intended for "the weaker vessel" to carry. We need to start allowing our men to care for, provide for, and protect us. What is wrong with living simply and allowing our husbands to be the men that God intended? Women are the emotional center of their homes and men are the logical center of their homes. We need both but one person cannot provide both, that is too stressful. Yes, I know that there are many women who are very logical and there are many men who are very sensitive. My Dh is very sensitive and I can tend to be very analytical. However, as I defer more to my husband I have found that my emotional side is surfacing more and as he takes more control his logical side leads him even as he continues to be sensitive. I know that sounds strange and like an oxymoron but that is what I am experiencing. I thank God for Dh's strength and ability to lead our family. I also thank Him for leading me to submit to my husband and to trust in his judgment. It breaks my heart when I see couples who are fighting the natural order of a family, there is so much turmoil and sadness. You can tell that neither couple is happy in the role that they are taking in the relationship, but they are so indoctrinated by the world view that they believe that they cannot be happy in the order of family that God set up. The world says that it is wrong to defer to your husband and that your are being abused somehow if you do as he wishes. Those who have trusted God and began to submit to their husbands have found that it is a much pleasanter way to live together. Things just flow better, and it promotes peace in the home.
The scripture that I referenced to in Ephesians 5:22-33. I know I did not quote it perfectly, but I hope that I got the idea across. This is the scripture that I try to apply to my marriage. You can read it for yourself in my Bible reader on the right of the page.
God Bless,
His girl